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If youâre going through perimenopause or have experienced menopause, youâve likely noticed some changes to your physical and mental health. For some, menopause can bring about positive changes to their sex life, as there is no longer a risk of getting pregnant. However, a majority of women will experience painful sex, also known as dyspareunia, after menopause to some extent. If youâve noticed that since going through menopause sex feels different than normal, or youâre worried about intimacy because of pain, letâs unpack what could be causing it.
As you age, what feels good during sex might change â which is completely normal. However, there are some physiological changes that take place during perimenopause that may make sex after menopause more painful, or less enjoyable. Itâs important to know that whilst these changes are common, if youâre worried about your sex life, there are practical steps you can take alone or in consultation with your doctor to make sex enjoyable for you. Before we get into some solutions, letâs first look at what could be causing these changes. So, what can cause painful sex after menopause?
During your reproductive years when you have your menstrual cycle, estrogen, one of the key sex hormones responsible for the menstrual cycle, levels are relatively high. During this time, estrogen maintains vaginal lubrication (wetness), as well as the structure of the vagina. Towards the end of your reproductive years, your ovaries stop producing as much estrogen. This hormone drop is essential in stopping your periods, but also contributes to changes to your vaginal anatomy. As many as 60% of postmenopausal women will experience some degree of vaginal atrophy (the thinning, drying, and inflammation of the vaginal walls), as a result of the drop in estrogen levels [1]. Without sufficient naturally-produced lubrication as a result of vaginal atrophy, sex may become more uncomfortable or painful.
Another symptom of vaginal atrophy is vaginal tightness. The decline in estrogen levels lead to thinning, dryness, and a loss of elasticity in the vaginal walls. This can make the vaginal opening feel tighter than before menopause, and may make sex more uncomfortable. Some women may experience bleeding due to vaginal atrophy, which can feel alarming. If you do experience this, you should consult with your doctor. The good news is that lubricants and other interventions can be used to ease feelings of dryness and tightness, should you wish to have sex [1].
During and after the menopause, many will experience a decrease in their arousal or a loss of libido. Estrogen is a key culprit in this change in libido as low estrogen levels can reduce a personâs sexual desire [2]. The physiological changes listed above, like vaginal dryness and tightness can also make sex more uncomfortable and contribute to a reduced desire to have sex in the first place.
Another important factor that could contribute to your lowered libido is the fact that during menopause, you may experience feelings of stress or fatigue, which could contribute to a lack of desire to engage in sex [3,4].
It is important to remember that everyoneâs experience with sex after menopause is different, and that if you experience a positive change in libido and arousal after the menopause, this is also normal and a totally valid experience.
If you have noticed that itâs become a bit harder to orgasm after menopause, youâre not alone. Letâs unpack what may be causing this change, and what you can do about it.
Declining estrogen levels during and after menopause impact arousal, and may make it more challenging to achieve orgasm in many ways. Physiologically, vaginal atrophy and decreased lubrication can cause discomfort or pain that makes it harder to reach a state of arousal. The hormonal changes can also reduce blood flow to the genitals and affect the functioning of the nerves in this area, contributing to a loss in sensitivity during sex [5,6].
Additionally, as you age, the pelvic floor tends to become weaker. When these muscles become weakened, orgasms can become harder to reach, or less intense when they do happen.
Struggling to orgasm after going through menopause can be distressing. Rest assured, If youâre interested in having sex and finding ways to achieve orgasm, some of the tips below might help you to have sex that is both pleasurable and enjoyable to you.
For many people, changes to the way they experience sex after menopause is inevitable. Symptoms like pain with sex after menopause and changes to your libido are common, and for this reason, many donât speak with their doctor. However, many of these symptoms are treatable and can be managed with the appropriate knowledge and tools. You deserve to feel confident and supported during the post-menopausal time, and have the sex you want (or donât want) to have in a way that feels good for you. If your menopausal symptoms are impacting your quality of life or your relationships, we recommend you consult with your doctor to establish the best treatment plan for you. Increasingly, doctors who specialize in menopause are becoming more common, so if you think you would benefit from getting some specialist support, it may be worth looking into this option.
Thanks for reading up on painful sex after menopause. Keeping track of your symptoms, like changes to your sex life, can help you have constructive conversations with your healthcare provider while keeping you informed about the changes and cycles happening during perimenopause and beyond. It may also be a useful way to track patterns that can be shared with your sexual partner(s). See if working with a tool like Natural Cycles can support you during this transitional time.
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